Have you ever determined to be a more Biblical woman? If you’re visiting this post, more than likely you have. As Christian women we often think about how God wants us to conduct ourselves. And while the Bible gives us plenty of examples, it can be challenging to form a solid picture of what a Biblical woman really looks like.
Let’s explore this further as we dive into the attributes that we can find in a Biblical woman and how we can apply these to our lives as modern Christian woman, from the inside out.
She fears and follows God above all else
The first, and most important attribute that we will find in a Biblical woman is that she puts God first in her life. We see this time and time again among the women in the Bible. First in the Proverbs 31 woman:
“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30
But in other places too, such as the admonishing that Jesus gives to Martha when she complains that Mary isn’t helping her with all the work around the house:
” And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.” – Luke 10:41-42
We are to put God above all else and to seek Him first and foremost:
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” – Matthew 6:33
She prays fervently and continuously
Being that a Biblical woman puts God above all else, naturally she is also in prayer quite frequently. Prayer needs to be an important part of your everyday life. Because God wants to have a real relationship with you, and that can only happen if you are communicating with God on a regular basis.
“Seek the Lord and his strength, seek his face continually.” – 1 Chronicles 16:11
And doing this means that we are continually in prayer. In the good times and the bad times. The hard times and the light times. We should invite God into our lives and our hearts without ceasing.
“Pray without ceasing.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:17
She studies scripture regularly
In an effort to have a strong relationship with God, praying is important. But studying scripture enables us to hear back from God about those supplications that we bring before Him in prayer.
“So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” – Romans 10:17
The Bible is many things. It’s a love letter from God to His people. It’s history (read: HIS-story). And it’s God’s revealed will. And that’s important because that means that we have access to it in order to teach us, reprove us, and train us up in righteousness.
“All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.”- 2 Timothy 3:16-17
She practices self-control and self-discipline
One of the definitive markings of a Biblical woman is that she has a level of self-control over her flesh. Because the spirit wars against the flesh and it is our job to bring our flesh into submission to our spirit (which is perfected in Christ).
“For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.” – Galations 5:17
Bearing the fruit of self-control (Galations 5:22-23) is a sign that the Spirit of God resides in you. Because it isn’t of our own strength that we practice self-control (despite how it sounds). But rather it’s by leaning into the strength of God that this is possible (Matthew 19:26).
So controlling our fleshly desires is extremely important. And we do that by denying our flesh those things which are sinful and disciplining ourselves to practice those things which are profitable to us.
“Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.” – Hebrews 12:11
She is trustworthy and honest
A woman who lives Biblically can be trusted by those closest to her. From her friends to her children to her husband.
“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” – Proverbs 31:11-12
The Bible says that he (or she) who is faithful in little, to him (or her) more will be given, but to those who are not faithful, even what they have will be taken away. So being trustworthy and reliable to others and to God is important in order to be a more Biblical woman.
“He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much. If therefore ye have not been faithful in the unrighteous mammon, who will commit to your trust the true riches? And if ye have not been faithful in that which is another man’s, who shall give you that which is your own?” – Luke 16:10-12
She is gentle, yet strong and confident
Finding a balance between being gentle, yet strong and confident can be challenging! But the Bible speaks about all of these attributes being present in a person (and in this case woman) of God.
The Bible says that a gentle answer can turn away wrath:
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1
And at the end of the description of the Armor of God, Paul encourages believers to be strong in the Lord and the power of His might.
“Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.” – Ephesians 6:10
We are to be strong and confident in the gifts, talents, and salvation that God has given us. But always gentle in the ways that we admonish and teach others (including our children).
“In the fear of the Lord is strong confidence: and his children shall have a place of refuge.” – Proverbs 14:26
She shows love, kindness, and generosity to those around her
We should always be quick to show the love of God with others through kindness and generosity.
“She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” – Proverbs 31:26
Because we are God’s elect, we must always strive to put off the fruits of the flesh and put on the fruits of the spirit in everything that we do as Biblical women.
“Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;” – Colossians 3:12
And always being ready and willing to share the blessings that God has given us is an important part of being kind and loving towards others. The Bible has a lot to say about generosity, and it’s a true sign of your submission to God’s will.
“She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.” – Proverbs 31:20
She practices modesty both inside and out
Being modest on both the inside and the outside is so important. A woman of God knows that dressing provocatively doesn’t do any good. But rather, it can cast a stumbling block to those who struggle with impure thoughts:
“But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours become a stumblingblock to them that are weak.” – 1 Corinthians 8:9
But modesty doesn’t begin and end on the outside. Rather, it starts with a renewed heart that is humbled and devoted to God.
“Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel. But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.” – 1 Peter 3:3-4
And ultimately we must remember that our bodies are not our own, but rather the temple of the Holy Spirit:
“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” – 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
She Finds her wisdom from the Lord
True wisdom doesn’t come from man, but rather from the Lord. And we must always remember this and be aware of the “wisdom” being thrown at us left and right from the world. Just because someone has advice to give doesn’t mean it’s good advice, or advice that God would want you to take.
“But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.” – James 3:14-17
And this wisdom from God isn’t unreachable, but rather we are to continuously seek out the Lord and ask Him for the wisdom we need.
“If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” – James 1:5
And it’s important to remember that being wise doesn’t always mean knowing everything. But rather being willing to take advice and instruction when needed.
“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.” – Proverbs 12:15
She submits to, and respects, her husband
Even though the world wouldn’t agree, God tells us that wives are to submit (aka obey) their husbands in their marriage. And this is because our marriages are meant to be walking examples of the relationship the Church has with Christ.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” – Ephesians 5:22-23
There will be times when your husband’s actions don’t seem respectful and loving towards you. But remember, that we honor and respect our husbands not because they deserve it, but because God commands it.
“If ye love me, keep my commandments.” – John 14:15
And it can help to remember what true, Biblically-based love looks like, and not the “pretend love” that the world preaches:
“Charity [love] suffereth long, and is kind; charity [love] envieth not; charity [love] vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
She trains her children up in the ways of the Lord
The world is out to lead your children away from God, but God’s Word tells us that if we train a child up in the way they should go, they will not depart from it when they get older:
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6
A Biblical woman works hard to teach her children about God because they are a gift from God. And leading them back to God is being a good steward of these precious gifts that you’ve been blessed with.
“Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.” – Psalm 127:3-5
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She works hard and does everything she does unto the Lord
Being a hard worker is something that the Bible speaks very highly of. The Bible tells us that everything we do we should do with all our might:
“Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.” – Ecclesiastes 9:10
Working hard and with all your heart is setting an example for your children. An example of thankfulness and good work ethic. Even if it’s just the little things that you have to do in your life every day like dishes and laundry.
Because everything we do we should do not for the glory of man, but for the glory of God:
“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;” – Colossians 3:23
The underestimated and misunderstood role of a Biblical woman
Oftentimes the term Biblical womanhood gets a bad rap. And it’s often misunderstood as being some out of date, old fashioned terminology. When, in reality, being a Biblical woman is simply living your life by the instruction given to us by God in the Bible, rather than by the instruction the world has to offer.
Biblical womanhood is simply putting God’s will first; and following His lead, and not the world’s.